Sexy is a state of mind, its confidence at it’s highest level, it’s a perception and is subjective. Sexy is not a look but an attitude and quite frankly, it has very little to do with sex or sexuality. While a person may be beautiful or handsome, they may not be sexy, consequently a sexy person may not be the most beautiful. In one of her most popular poems Phenomenal Woman, Maya Angelou interpreted like this,


Pretty women wonder where my secret lies.

I’m not cute or built to suit a fashion model’s size   

But when I start to tell them,

They think I’m telling lies.

I say,

It’s in the reach of my arms,

The span of my hips,   

The stride of my step,   

The curl of my lips.   

I’m a woman


Phenomenal woman,   

That’s me.

I walk into a room

Just as cool as you please,   

And to a man,

The fellows stand or

Fall down on their knees.   

Then they swarm around me,

A hive of honey bees.   

I say,

It’s the fire in my eyes,   

And the flash of my teeth,   

The swing in my waist,   

And the joy in my feet.   

I’m a woman


Phenomenal woman,

That’s me.

Men themselves have wondered   

What they see in me.

They try so much

But they can’t touch

My inner mystery.

When I try to show them,   

They say they still can’t see.   

I say,

It’s in the arch of my back,   

The sun of my smile,

The ride of my breasts,

The grace of my style.

I’m a woman


Phenomenal woman,

That’s me.

Now you understand

Just why my head’s not bowed.   

I don’t shout or jump about

Or have to talk real loud.   

When you see me passing,

It ought to make you proud.

I say,

It’s in the click of my heels,   

The bend of my hair,   

the palm of my hand,   

The need for my care.   

’Cause I’m a woman


Phenomenal woman,

That’s me.


So, how does one increase their sexy status you ask??? Well first of all Sexy has a purpose, an intent. It proceeds you and goes before you. Wanting to be Sexy is half the battle in getting there. The good news is, what sexy is for one may not be for the other.

Sexy is an individually wrapped packaged good

There is a certain level of humor, wit and cleverness that embodies a sexy spirit and with that comes a lightness and carefree edge that invites sexy into the atmosphere. Sexy is positioned for greatness and there is an automatic presumption of VIP status with an “I’d rather be in coach” attitude. Sexy is not anxious nor is it complex, it is not noisy nor boastful but it is fun and exciting, dearing and courageous.

Lips licked and pouted, eyes wide, head tilted to the side. Shoulders back, chin up tummy tucked with an ever so angelic exhale. While inside thinking “I feel great, I look great”.  That’s probably close to the verbal look of Sexy.  When sexy knocks the door opens, when sexy applies, it is accepted and when sexy calls it is answered. If your desire is to increase your sexy status just look at this as your first step and know that you are closer than you think. Accept who you are and keep praising yourself for being you!